Can't see the video? See: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XrkYTsQCuP4
If you can't see the video click here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIsmCmgkySc
Agreed, alcoholism, suicide, sex scandals and child molestation are not unique to Kerala, the difference lies in the scale in which all these are prevalent in the state.
Kerala has the highest percapita consumption of alcohol in the entire country, approx 8.3 Litres. Thats almost 8 and a half liters of alcohol for every man , woman and child in the state per
year!
http://www.thaindian.com/
crore-sold-in-a-single-day-in-
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/no-
kerala/81842-3.html
http://www.sonyvellayani.com/
each.html
These trends only keep rising, year after year,breaking new records as they go.
The same can be said about suicide, with the country's most literate state (you'd imagine that high literacy would go with high education, and perhaps a more 'enlightened' populace) also being
its Suicide capital.
http://www.maithrikochi.org/
Very tragic variations of suicide like the 'family murder-suicides' are almost endemic to Kerala. I have a medical education, and the first case(es) I ever saw in Forensic medicine was the
sight of an entire family, an affluent looking forty year old husband , his 35 year old wife and their two young daughters sprawled on the cold marble slab of the Autopsy table, all with
their rib cages splayed open, and eviscerated. Its hard to imagine someone could be so selfish as to take a young childs life, when their own lives have failed for one reason or the other.
Another dubious distinction that kerala holds is in its terrible record of violation of women and child rights. Kerala has the highest number of sex scandals involving the exploitation and
trafficking of minor girls. Most of these girls were abused and degraded in the worst possible way, being traded like cattle by people occupying the highest echelons of society in kerala
(read Actors,Intellectuals, Ministers, politicians, Administrative officials, wealthy businessmen and prominent Non resident keralites). None of these people have since been brought to
justice, while the poor victims and their families have been bought off for their silence or in some tragic cases ,have died suddenly in mysterious circumstances.As the Nalini Netto case
shows , even a female IAS officer wasn't spared having her ass grabbed by an 'educated, 100% literate lawmaker' It makes no difference as to the perpetrator, these cases are the norm whoever is in power in the state.In Kerala, an attractive female is referred to as a'charakku' (which means "commodity"). A woman is nothing more than tits and ass to be grabbed, if the
opportunity presents itself, ask any woman in kerala who has traveled by bus. (In kerala, schoolboys practice a kind of frotteurism in public buses, standing behind middle aged women, and violently pummelling into their rear ends when the bus makes an emergency stop,... They call it "Jacky", dont ask me why).
Sexual abuse of young children in ashrams, the church (several high profile sex / murder cases , novitiate nuns being forced to engage in degrading/deviant practices with priests and other nuns) and I do not even want to start talking about the depth of depravity that is being practiced in Malappuram district where the ritual sexual abuse of children and young girls ( fathers in law taking liberties with their daughters in law) are justified with religious sanction!
I am not basing my conclusions on a few random occurrences, the number and pattern of these events is so widespread that it suggests that it is indicative of a more general problem, something
more ingrained and fundamental in the malayalee psyche than anything else.
This brings us to the question, Why?
As I said before, the malayalee is fundamentally weak. It is this terrible weakness that drives him to despair, to run away, to hide, to seek refuge in the bottle, or the noose instead of 'toughing' it out and seeking a practical solution. The malayalee is fundamentally afraid of rejection and 'losing face' ,more so than any other people in the world except maybe the
Japanese. A malayalee, on a certain level , engages with the world as an outsider, the world to him is divided into 2 black and white communities, those that are 'like' him and those who are
'unlike' him. He lives in dread and fear of the latter.
This is the reason that they tend to seek out their own kind, to the point of factionalism, are construed as being very 'social'.( A very amusing tendency of mallus is to form 'associations'. Previously, there used to be only a single 'Indian' association or a 'kerala association' in many places abroad. Now you have associations within associations, eg the Cochin association, the Trivandrum association, the Syrian orthodox association within the Trivandrum association and so on, each with its own Chairman, General Secretary, Treasurer etc).The sociability of a malayalee is limited to people who act and think like him, ( Id like to think of this as being a result of almost 50 years of Communist influence, the pre ponderance of Group-think, and the importance of toeing the Party-line). This self constructed artificial and delusional world view, the accompanying fear psychosis and high sensitivity to rejection or 'losing face' makes the malayalee very paranoid in dealing with the world.
You can see examples of this when a mallu lets out a flat or decides to build a house,... The contractor has to be a mallu , so too with the sub-contractor, the plumber, electrician,painter
etc. The landlord will lease only to a fellow mallu,even if you offer to exceed the rent being asked. In trivandrum, the first thing a landlord asks you when you ask to lease a property is your caste/ community. This is why they bond so well together and roam about in their hound-packs. They are incapable of engaging with the world in any other way other than as a group, which is the primary source of their self esteem , power and the base of their social relationships. Remove a mallu from his/her "group" and what remains is shadows and dust.The community is the base construct of the mallu view. Nothing is worth doing if not in the public eye, no acheivement is valid unless validated by the imagined "community" of people around him/her.Group aggregation behaviour in mallus is reductionist and becomes more specific and factional as the group dynamic changes(eg. Me and the other mallus against the Goans and
Punjabis,// then me(Travancore mallu) against the Malabar mallus, // or Me (Syrian Orthodox ) against the Pentecosts or Me (Nair ) against the Ezhavas and so on.
As a consequence of living constantly with their minds attuned to perceptions of their world through others eyes, any real or imagined failure or setback is construed as public ridicule, a
total "rejection" which drives the mallu to despair, to drink or to die. Im sure that when that poor bastard lying on the Autopsy table decided to 'off' himself and his family , he did it because he was more afraid of facing his neighbours'/familys' vile and sarcastic remarks, than of any
tangible damage that would result from any real world problem he would have faced.
This fear and paranoia is the source of the mallus boorish, uncouth and sometimes outright provocative behavior. He is so afraid of being slighted/rejected , that he pre-empts the attack,
Any minor slight, discourtesy or even off hand joke made at his/her expense is interpreted as a major attack, to be responded with accordingly. This is what non mallus are often at a
loss to understand, when tiny problems blow up to fantastic proportions and assume the quality of blood feuds!
The major weapons a mallu employs (and with deadly effect) is his/her venomous tongue. Mind you, the poison that can spew out of a mallus' forked tongue when provoked is unlike anything else you will ever hear anywhere. You have yet to be insulted till you have been insulted by a mallu. Sarcasm and spewing vitriol is firmly entrenched in the malayalee milieu and can be
readily observed in contemporary TV shows, films etc. It is considered a skill to spew forth filthy vile invective to cut your opponents to pieces, preferably in full public view.
They will stop at nothing, If you have lost a child to miscarriage, they will poke fun of the dead baby, If you are the parent of a handicapped child, you can be sure to hear the worst
'retard' jokes ever concocted.Nothing is sacred to these people. I know because ive seen shit like this happening with alarming regularity.
The mallu thinks he is smarter than others around him. Smartness to a mallu is interpreted as cunning. The ability to deceive another person , to bring him to ruin and bask in schadenfreude is
the primary pleasure of the malayalee. That joke about transporting Indian crabs without a lid on the crate ( The other crabs will pull down any crab that rises too high) was written for mallus. The mallu always acts as though he/she is in possession of some secret knowledge, that is his privilege and that of a few fellow mallus, so that it is perfectly justifiable to disparage other /communities/nationalities.
I expect people to say that , most of what I have described above is commonplace in the contemporary world. Just because it is common place in Kerala dosent make it common place in the rest of the world. As I said, this is more ingrained , and institutionalized in Kerala. You dont have sex scandals involving kids and Ministers appearing in a weekly basis in the newspapers of even the most liberal European countries. You dont have entire families slaughtering themselves because the father lost his "Gulf" job or couldnt get his visa. You dont get Rs 34 crore worth of alcohol sold in a single day anywhere else.
The 'problem' with the malayalee is his inability to acknowledge a problem. He is far too conceited. He is content to pull the wool over his eyes,& let problems sort themselves out. He cannot accept that he may have failings that cannot be redressed, and cannot bring himself to stoop down from the ivory tower he has constructed and perched atop, and accept failure or
defeat.
That is why you will always hear from them, the same old tunes of "100% Literacy (In malayalam only), best socio-economic indices (with Gulf remittance money), and the beauty of (drug and pedophile infested) beaches and backwaters.
Contrary to what you may think, I am not a self hating mallu. Im well adjusted with a wonderful fraud-mallu fiancee, a loving family and a reasonably good occupation.
What I cant stand are conceited mallus who are in denial about the problems endemic
in their society,and the haughty and exclusionist attitude they assume because it forces them to take a long inward look at themselves only to face some unpalatable truths. This is why you
militiate so vehemently when topics like this are brought up, because you know this is the truth, you know that people like me know this is the truth, and you know that I know that
you know that what I speak is the truth> Confused?
Everybody knows the truth!
Thanks for this great post!
People from kerala, especially those who live and work around Trivandrum are a highly conceited lot and will avoid anything that will even remotely make themselves lose face. Im surprised that she would put herself through this,( Im sure she knows how embarrassing she sounds!).
Im what people would (derisively) refer to as a "fraud mallu" (a mallu born and raised abroad, not fluent in malayalam and non observant of many facets of kerala culture),and the 7 years that I spent in Kerala was a real eye opener into the psyche of my 'native' cousins.
I can seriously vouch for the fact that,most native born mallus, harbour a very strongly felt deep seated secret desire to be able to speak fluently in English! I say secret because, for some reason, mallus are very afraid of being caught by their fellow native born mallus for doing the same!
When I went to college, some of the worst abuses , snide remarks etc, were reserved for me, my status as a "fraud mallu" being roughly analogous to that of a Jew in Nazi Germany. But what amazed me the most was the sight, (behind closed doors, or at night), when the very same people , who took such vehement pleasure in tormenting me, would come to me literally pleading for ways to improve their English!(spoken, they didnt care shit for writing in English). They usually came alone, away from their hound-pack aggregations that mallus are notorious for, and more often than not, they came drunk.
Anyone who (even) occasionally watches mallu movies will ascribe to the fact that characters who speak english in them are often portrayed in a very (usually negative) stereotypical way. They are either shown as being the haughty "snob" distant type , or the "pseudo intellectual" type or as being the helpless , "just fresh of the boat" Non resident Keralite type , being preyed upon by his/her 'worldly wise" native cousins. There is another actor, who is probably familiar to the mallus/frauds here , famous for delivering histrionic/bombastic dialogue (Just Mind It!, Shit!) in English. Never once will you ever see people speaking normally to one another in english, except maybe a couple of lines in a few, NRI-set romance movies.
This combination of a deep seated desire to communicate effectively and fluently in English , coupled with their inability to do so, has led to a lot of these people to develop severely hypocritical views on this issue, deriding and denouncing such people in public, while secretly lamenting their weakness in private.
I used to harbor feelings of terrible hatred for these people, but the more you come to understand them, the more i feel terribly sorry for them.
A famous Indian philosopher once remarked that "Kerala is a lunatic asylum". Sure as shit, it still is. All the social problems they go through there, the alcoholism, the suicides, the sex scandals, the child molestations, etc are all indicative of the fundamental weakness inherent in the psyche of the native born mallu. Of course there are progressive mallus, even native born, who are not what I described above, but they are just a few drops in the ocean of insanity that is contemporary Kerala, and even certain types of "progressive mallus" engage in this kind of lunatic behaviour once among the hound-pack of their native cousins.
i know i'll receive a lot of hate mail and denials/rebuttals on this issue, but everything i have said is true to my knowledge, and attests to 7 years of personal experience. These observations come from a person who possesses a unique vantage point of being both an "insider" and "outsider" to contemporary Kerala society.
These beautiful ladies will be joining the teaching staff at the United Indian School. Finally, we have some hot sizzelling hot mallu aunties as teachers!
If you can't see this, click here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfzWhXYM8-k (my thanks to the anonymous submitter!)
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